WOMEN AND SEX

 WHAT IS SEX?  Sex means different things to different people. A healthy and natural activity that most people enjoys and finds meaningful even if their understanding towards it differs. Every woman have the right to decide what sex means to her but then, sex is not just a  vaginal intercourse but anything that feels sexual and sensual. It could be your talks with your partner, your dressing etc.

Sexual Activity:  Is an activity that is considered sexual by the people involved. It could be any of the following, vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, kissing, taking sexual pix, caressing and blow-jobs.

Vaginal Sex:  Contact between the penis and the vaginal or anus in some cases.

Oral Sex:  Contact between the mouth and the man’s penis, the mouth and the vulva or the mouth and anus. In order words, it is known as blow-job. 

However, sex begins in the mind and many women finds it to be the deepest form of love and connection. It is an aspect of love thou. To most ladies, a caring guy is a hot guy and the guy who dresses to impress is superb. 

What is a good/healthy sex life like

Whether you are in relationship or marriage, the truth remains that good sex life means different things to different people. If you are getting what you need and want, feels comfortable communicating with your partner about them, your sex life is pretty good. A healthy sex life is very important no matter what your relationship status ‘is. No one likes the uncomfortable question, “when last were you tested of std’s”? but do not be afraid to ask about your partner’s health status because it might one day be your own status too. 

Have a productive and meaningful communication.

Be zealous to make time for each other 

Love each other 

Accept each others flaws 

Make a plan when life becomes busy

Initiate sexual ideas often 

Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life 

Improves self esteem 

Increase intimacy and closeness to a sexual partner 

Lowers blood pressure 

Brings good sleep

It is immediate and natural pain killer 

Reduces emotional and physiological stress 

Cures some sickness 

Some Female Sexual Problems are as follows:

Inability to become aroused: This often results into insufficient vaginal lubrication. It could be caused by anxiety or inadequate stimulation. It is advisable  that  the male partner does much of the caressing here to get a good satisfaction.

Painful intercourse:  This could be caused by a number of problems including vaginitis, poor lubrication, std’s, ovarian cysts, endometriosis e.t.c. 

Vaginismus often happens when a woman associates pain with sex, fingered by a dirty finger or if she has had vaginal trauma. This can be treated by focusing on sex education and counseling. 

Lack of Orgasm:  Absence of sexual climax. It can be caused by woman’s sexual inhibition, experience, lack of knowledge and psychological factors. Such as abuse, anxiety, sexual trauma. Insufficient stimulation, certain medication and chronic diseases could cause it. 

The Ideal Methods for Treating:  These problems depends on its cause but some of them needs only but a good sex education, enhancing stimulation, using sexual positions that allows the woman to control the depth and encouraging non-coital behaviours, admitting your discomfort and talking to you partner.